Check out these pictures from Mr. & Mrs. Reed’s wedding:

 

This wedding was extra special for me because I went to TCU with both the bride & groom. Lance & I had many Communication Studies classes together. Little did I know back then, that I’d someday be helping coordinate their special day! #veryrewarding :)

How far in advance does the chapel book?

If I only received a dollar for everytime I got this question!

RCC usually books a year to a year & a half out, but it depends upon the time of year & which time frame you’re wanting. The most popular seasons are spring & summer, then fall, & winter is the least popular. The most popular time frame is 5-8pm, then 2-5pm & the least popular is 11am-2pm. Therefore, if you’re looking for an evening or afternoon date in spring or summer, book now! 

It’s smart to book sooner than later because once a spot is gone, it’s gone. I always feel bad for brides that wait too long & then their date has already been taken, but we go on a “first come, first serve” basis. So if you call in the morning & someone else takes it an hour later, it’s out of our hands. Therefore, dont delay- book your RCC wedding today!

Planning a wedding with divorced parents? Read this!

After working numerous weddings of divorced families, I recently found myself thanking my parents for staying together (selfishly, for the sake of my not-yet-existent wedding). There’s nothing more stressful on a wedding day than having to worry about family dynamics. The last thing a bride wants to think about is “Are my parents being civil? Will dad make a scene about having to sit next to mom? Will my step-mom throw a hissy fit for seating her in the 2nd row, instead of the 1st?” These are all questions every bride dreads. It is because of all this all-too-common family chaos that I’ve decided to write this blog, in an effort to help my brides prepare for THEIR (not their parent’s) big day.

I’ve seen it all… step mom wears white, mom decides she doesn’t like her daughter’s music selections & changes it all the day before, step dad doesn’t show to walk the bride down the aisle. One wouldn’t expect grown people, who are about to give their children away in marriage, to make these selfish choices, but I see it happen almost every weekend. My advice to brides from families of divorce is to sit your family down, sometime before the wedding rehearsal, & let them know your expectations for the wedding.

If your parents don’t get along… Let them know ahead of time that you expect them to be civil for one day- your day. Ask them to please be adults & come together for this singular day. Tell them the greatest wedding gift they could give you is the gift of harmony. Then, after the wedding is over, they can go back to hating each other & bickering for the rest of their lives, if desired.

If your parents refuse to sit together… You can take a couple different routes. The first route is to ask them to sit where you want them to. If you want all parents to sit on the first row, tell them that. Tell them how much it would mean to you, to have them come together & simply sit next to one another for a 20 minute ceremony. Be sure to tell them that they don’t have to hold hands or even walk down the aisle together, but seeing your parents sit in the same row would make your day. The 2nd route is to blame me, the wedding coordinator. Tell mom & dad that the wedding planner said that all parents must sit on the 1st row & grandparents must sit on the 2nd row. If you do not want them on the same row, tell them that ladies are first- mom & step dad sit on the 1st row & dad & step mom sit on the 2nd row– that is what the wedding planner said & that is how it must be! (even though we really don’t care, either way ;) )

If your mom or step-mom is trying to relive her wedding day through you… Tell her that you appreciate her suggestions & will take them into consideration, but remind her that she has already had her wedding day (maybe even more than once) & this day is yours. If you are grown up enough to get married, you are grown up enough to make your own choices too!

If both dad & step dad want to walk you down the aisle… This choice is up to you. Plain & simple. Let them know your wishes & ask them to respect it. If they cannot respect your choice, then they do not deserve to be a part of your day.

I have no doubt there are dozens of other family disputes I’m forgetting, but I think this covers the basics for now. It’s important to hear people out & understand where their coming from, but also stand your ground. Otherwise, you will get walked over, as I too often see brides conforming to meet their family’s ridiculous desires. Remember this day is about you & your beloved, not your crazy family!