Congratulations to newlyweds Mr. and Mrs. Ladusky who were married at the chapel this February! We hope this next chapter of your lives brings much joy and love for you both!
We are thrilled to learn that we have been nominated for the “Best Ceremony Site” by the AACWP! Way to go, RCC staff!
Although I am only 21 years old, unmarried, and single, if I can offer one important piece of advice to the many recently engaged couples: Please do not get caught up in all of the many details that go into the most important day of your lives. Now that may sound contradictory because, hey—it’s the most important day of your lives! But if you keep reading, you will hopefully understand and consider what I have to say about weddings and marriage. I was once the little girl who endlessly dreamed about getting married and having the most spectacular and extravagant wedding, but over the last ten months I have planned and coordinated many weddings at the Robert Carr Chapel, Perfectly Planned by Pati, and Shenanigans Weddings and Events, my perspective has flipped 180 degrees.
Now I’m not saying that I want to get married in a courthouse necessarily, but I will make an ode to my fiancé, friends, family, and myself to make the main priority throughout my engagement period the person I love and our beautiful future together. On countless occasions in my various wedding planning internships I have witnessed brides, grooms, parents, and friends become overtaken by miniscule mishaps that have literally nothing to do with marriage. The linens were supposed to be ivory, not oyster; I should have lost more weight to look perfect in pictures; A guest interferes with the band’s playlist; The floral arrangements are too tall; The cake was supposed to be cut at 8:30, not 8:40; my hair isn’t looking the same as during the consultation… the list goes on and I’ve seen it all. But please remember, the purpose of a wedding is to celebrate the union of two hearts. I promise you that none of your guests will notice or care if your linens are slightly off. With that being said, please take some pressure off of yourself to make the day perfect—it will be perfect in all of its hiccups because you and your fiancé are surrounded by those who will love and support you throughout all of the inevitable hiccups that occur in a marriage.
I also see that on the day of the wedding, many couples do not spend enough time with each other. Yes, it is important to socialize with your guests and show your gratitude, but make a conscious effort to frequently kiss, hug, laugh, and smile with your bride or groom. After all, your guests are attending for the both of you!
Now let’s talk about alcohol. In my opinion, the consumption of alcohol at a wedding can be really fun for both you and your guests, but the bride and groom should really try to keep it together. Not only do you want to wholeheartedly remember this day, but you must keep in mind that all eyes are on you two. Of course, everyone wants to have a great time, and while your guests can get away with being a little toasty, you don’t want your guests to feel uncomfortable when the groom is out back green in the face (this happens quite freqeuntly!). Either way, the slogan “drink responsibly” should be your motto for your wedding day and for the rehearsal dinner!
One aspect of weddings that I am very passionate about is family dynamics. I personally grew up with a broken family and have always been concerned with details of, “Will my mom and dad sit in the same aisle?” “Will my family get along at my wedding?” “What if someone feels uncomfortable?” These distressing questions are frequently expressed to me by brides and grooms, and I want you to know that it is not your concern on your day. It is YOUR day. When I am engaged one day I will tell my family that they need to leave all of the issues at home throughout my entire wedding. I would hope that family members will remember why we are all here and avoid another unnecessary stress for the couple.
Lastly, on the topic of stress, if your budget allows—hire a wedding planner. Whether they are hired for the entire engagement, the month of, or the day of, these professionals will really help ease your stresses and anxieties. If a hiring a wedding planner is out of your budget, find someone willing and able to help plan your wedding. Make sure that he or she has a lot of time, persistence, organization, and patience because the job is not easy! Especially on the weekend of your wedding, a wedding planner will be your savior. The experience of planning a wedding and getting married will be a more enjoyable and you will be able to focus your time and energy on your bride or groom.
I hope that some of this advice will be useful for all of the engaged couples and will enlighten you to remember the most important thing of all—love. Love each other always… in times of joy and excitement and in times of hardship and darkness. Be patient with each other throughout the engagement and throughout your marriage. I hope that on the day of your wedding, you daughter’s wedding, your brother’s wedding, your best friend’s wedding, that you will experience exuberant love, joy, and laughter on the extraordinary day.
We had so much fun at the Star-Telegram’s bridal show today! It was right down the street from us at Will Rodgers Coliseum. We are so thankful for our dear friends at the FW Worthington Renaissance for the invite & tickets. We took advantage of the fun photo op below. What a beautiful bridal Sunday!
Came across this historic picture in Sadler Hall today… #TCU #TCUhistory #TCUchapel http://t.co/DaPYqaFHRK— Robert Carr Chapel (@TCUChapel) January 10, 2014
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The Robert Carr Chapel would like to congratulate the adorable Jamie and Oscar on their beautiful wedding! We hope these newlyweds are enjoying their new lives together!